Depending on whether the parcel is located inside a city limits or not, if the land falls under zoning controls, and what the particular laws are in your state, something like a Planned Development District, or PDD, may provide some of the controls you are looking for. A PDD is something like a development agreement with a municipality that sets general characteristics of parcels of land within the overall site while leaving some flexibility to the developers of each parcel. They would have to follow your general land plan.
If the parcel is within city limits, you may get some good info from the city administrator or development office on how to go about it. I’m sure there are other types of things to get you where you want to go.
Dave